Meetings At The Round Table: Do You Care Who Loves You?

It's been a while since I posted a MATRT discussion but after my recent experience, I HAD to share and see what my readers would have to say about it.  If you know me personally, or have kept up with DDT, you'll know that I'm a VERY open minded person.  While I (like everyone else) have my opinions on certain issues, I am never one to judge.  It's not my job and I wouldn't care to be one.  With that said, let's get on with the post. Oh and please excuse the language but I want y'all to REALLY be in the moment with me.

Recently I was at a dinner party with a friend.  I was familiar with some of the guests and others I had never seen before. I was at the end closer to individuals that I didn't know, but if you know me, you know I'm a people person and if you're cool, we're cool.  So, the guy next to me introduced himself (we'll call him Bobby), I introduced myself and as the night went on we shared more than a couple of laughs.  It was just a great night with great energy in the air and really nice margaritas LOL.  Towards the end of the night one of the other guests addressed my twin sister but called her Dawn (that's my name if you didn't know).  We all laughed for a while at the fact that he'd sat through an entire meal thinking I was her and she was me.  To help him and the other guests out I playfully said to them "the easiest way to tell is to look at the ring on her finger, I have no ring and I have no man" LOL.  After pointing out that difference in the two of us, Bobby started speaking to me, but much softer than he had before.  This is how the convo went.

Bobby: So, one of you doesn't care who loves you...which one is it?
Me: *HELLA CONFUSED/TIPSY FACE* huh?!
Bobby: One of you doesn't care who loves you....is it you?

At this point I'm extremely confused because number 1, where is this question coming from...and number 2, what in the hell is he talking about LOL.  Check MORE DISH to see EXACTLY what he meant!


Bobby: One of you doesn't care who loves you....is it you?
Me: I'm not really sure what you're asking so I can't really answer your question.
Bobby:  Okay listen... I was with my girl for a while, everything was going good and then..... I started dating this guy.  I let her know what was going on and we broke up.  Now any woman that I meet I let her know off top that I've been with men before.
Me: *shocked as hell* Wow.. well let me say this, I commend you and truly respect you for your honesty.  I appreciate the fact that you give the woman the opportunity to make that decision. It's a lot of men out here doing the same thing but they aren't truthful about it like you. I appreciate that!
Bobby: Yea, I'm always truthful....But BLACK WOMEN don't look at it that way.  They're not looking at the fact that I'm not getting f*cked, I'm doing the f*cking!  I love whoever loves me.  But they look at it as if you let a ni**a suck you off, you're gay.  I don't look at it that way... I look at it like A HOLE IS A HOLE!

Y'all...he got me with the "a hole is a hole" line. I had the SUPER stunned face on LOL. Back to the convo.

Me: Really, that's how you look at it?
Bobby: Yea, that doesn't make me gay. I don't know about telling women my situation tho cuz they always have this negative attitude about it.
Me: Yes, you do know and you're doing the right thing and again, I appreciate it!  If that's how you feel about it, I respect that.  But you also have to understand women feeling the way they feel about it as well.

Someone from the table got my attention and I left the conversation, thinking it was over. Nope, it wasn't!  Bobby got my attention and starts up all over again LOL.

Bobby: So what do you think about it?
Me: What do I think about what? LOL
Bobby: The situation I just spoke of.
Me: Again, you're doing what you're supposed to (At this point Bobby kept saying "but, but, but").   If you're telling these women about your lifestyle and they are willing to accept it then that's what they're willing to accept and they are the ones that you might be able to be with.
Bobby:  You keep saying THEY!
Me: Yes THEY, cuz that's not something that I'M willing to deal with but that's just me.  Different people are willing to deal with different things.
Bobby: But that's not right.. women are able to flip flop and nobody says anything.
Me: You're right.. it's more acceptable with women, and yes it's a total double standard but that's just what it is. There a tons of double standards!
Bobby: That's f*cked up! (He didn't say this in a rude or offensive way..he was speaking of the double standard)
Me: This whole world is f*cked up, from the roota to the toota!! But there are seriously women out there that will accept it, I've heard stories of some.

At this point everyone was getting up to leave so that was literally our last words to one another.  When I left I was in complete shock at what I'd just heard.  Granted I've had men approach me before that I truly felt liked penis, but I have NEVER had one to come straight out and tell me (well he likes holes, but whatev).  When I say I have the UTMOST respect for Bobby, I really do!  I love hearing people's different takes on love and how they should receive and/or give it.  Out of that entire discussion, the thing that confused me most was the fact that he SERIOUSLY does NOT consider himself to be "gay."  Now personally, I don't care if you're gay, straight, bi or tri...but when you don't know who/what you are that can be totally confusing.  Hell, it's confusing when you do know who/what you are LOL.  Bobby stated to me that when he's with a person, that's who he's with and his partner doesn't have to worry about him stepping out.  So I'm guessing that means that if he's with a woman, she doesn't have to worry about him being with a man and vice versa.  I really would have liked to sit and talk with Bobby a little more because he seemed to be really open to talking about this, and I WILL ask a million and three questions LOL.  The main question I wanted to ask is how are you not gay if you like having sexual relations (taking, giving, sucking, blowing, whatever) with another male?  What do you guys think?  Again I say, I commend Bobby for his truthfulness and we need more of it from our black men.  Cuz while y'all playing, I know of a few men that could've been cast in "Broke Back Mountain" but they're out here pretending to like females.  Well maybe I should say pretending to ONLY like females cuz clearly, Bobby likes females, he just likes him some boy meat as well. I'm wondering if more of these "down low" men would be more truthful about their lifestyles if they felt more women would accept it? I'm also curious as to why he said "black women" and not just women in general.   Okay..comments please!!  Do you care who loves you?  I sure as hell do, LOL.

Meeting Adjourned!

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Meetings At The Round Table 7

Hey, hey, heyyyyyyyy... It's been a minute since I did a MATRT segment, but of course you knew I'd be back.  I only have two things I want to mention sooooooooooooooooo, lets go!!

There's A Thin Line Between Real.......AND RETARDED!!

This post is about that slow azz Kat Stacks, SMH.  I'm still shocked that some people actually call her the 2010 Superhead, I think I may have even called her that when she FIRST made a video).  However, she couldn't touch Karrine Stephens with a 10 foot pole.  Since Kat has come out, she has "blasted" several celebs, gotten knocked upside the head about 3 times, fell out drunk at several clubs and obviously bought more stock in Rainbow's Clothing Store.  I've called this chick slow since day one, but her latest stunt proves that she needs a check and not one from WSHH. 

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Have any of you seen the video where she "shows her real kitty?" *insert sick face here* I saw that BS last wkend and have been taking anybody willing to look to see that madness. Since seeing the video, I've renamed her "Katastrophe Kat" cuz that is THE UGLIEST POON EVER!! Now, I'm not a poon expert but that one there was worn the hell out. It's was actually HANGING from her body, like it fell out of her insides. My homegirl made an observation that didn't seem too far fetched. While looking at the "hanging poon" she stated that Kat could possibly have been born a man and that this was the result of a sex change. Again, I'm not an expert on sex operations but that who-ha just didn't look right.  I'm not trying to start any rumors so let me move on from her poon.  Back to the issue at hand... this poor thing really thinks she's on, SMH.

As the title reads, there is a thin line between real and RETARDED.  Katherine Stacks has clearly drawn that line and trampled all over it causing it to disappear.  In my book, she is not considered real, she is the most retarded child ever.  It's like I want to feel sorry for her, but then she makes you wanna roast her 2 seconds later.  As I was showing the poon video to another friend yesterday, I had to wonder....how much is WSHH paying this chick?  No amount could be enough for her to be doing this mess.  It's so RIDICULOUS, SMH! It's not like she's in Playboy or something, she's on the WORLD WIDE WEB in Snoopy/snow man panties showing her hang time (I meant that literally) ROFL.  Enough about her, just please remember people that if you're not careful you can go from real to retarded without realizing it. Stay on ya toes, LOL.

It Gets Better

I've already spoke on this topic, but I felt the need to mention it again today.  The "It Gets Better" campaign was started to help young individuals in the LGBT (lesbian, gay, bi-sexual and transgendered) community understand that although it may be difficult living as a LGBT person, it will most definitely GET BETTER!  In the past few weeks we've had several young men kill themselves due to bullying and/or teasing surrounding their homosexuality.  This has got to stop, and it starts at home!  While we might not all agree with a person's sexuality, we still have to be respectful of that person because whatever they are, they are human first.  I never understood "bullies" and although I never had to deal with them, I would see them bother others when I was younger.  My mom always told me that usually if you START ish, you don't END it. 

One thing that bothers me the most is that these babies (they range from ages 13-18) didn't think that it would get better.  I've dealt with a lot of things in my life, but I never reached a point where I thought that that  was it and it couldn't get better.  It makes you wonder exactly how much they withstood before they reached that breaking point.  It's scary to think about what our children go through on a daily basis that we have no clue of.  Keep in mind that if you're having problems it really helps to find someone to talk to, let it out!  Now that I'm getting older the "been there, done that" saying means a lot more to me than it did back in the day.  As children we don't really think about the fact that our parents actually have dealt with adolescence and may be able to help us with certain things. While I can't speak on how hard it is for the LGBT community, speaking as a black woman in a jacked up world... I can say WHATEVER you're dealing with in the world, as long as you have the strength to continue, it WILL GET BETTER!! BTW, I love the gays ;)

Well, that's it guys and gals, post your thoughts.  Meeting Adjourned!!!

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Meetings At The Round Table 6 -- Reset Button!!

Yea, yea, yea.... I know it's been a minute since I did a Meetings At The Round Table segment, but I don't have time to do it every week like I would really like to.  It's crazy because I have so many topics that I would love to write about, but I rarely get the time.  This last quarter of Grad School (I graduate Sept. 25th, YAY me) is seriously working ya girl.  Anywho, how about we try something new ;).  Instead of me writing all the MATRT segments, why don't you guys send in some stuff.  That way it'll actually be more like having "meetings" instead of all the topics coming from me.  Some things I don't really go into on the world wide web but I know many of my readers have no problem with saying certain things LOL. Therefore, feel free to discuss any topic you'd like.  Now, on to this topic!!!

I finally got the chance to see the movie Hot Tub Time Machine, it was a much better movie than I thought it would be.  Prior to seeing the movie I would ask people what they thought about it and I always got the same answer.. "its so damn funny."  Well, while watching it, I too found it to be hilarious but I didn't expect it to actually be a "good" movie. Since I saw it, I've wanted to ask you guys a question. 

What if in life we were allowed a one time RESET BUTTON... would you use it and when?

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Just today, I mentioned on my FB page that confusion is one of the most annoying things EVER!!! I hate the feeling of not knowing.  Life is full of decisions and each decision/action will ultimately bring about a different result.  The thing is, how in the hell do we know which one will bring about the best result?  Although I know that there is no way to go back in time, I've literally been thinking about this "reset button" since watching the movie.  When I was coming up with how my "reset button" would work,  I didn't like the idea of starting ALL the way over at infancy.  So, I came up with deciding to start over from any point in life, your choice! This way, when you go back through life the second time there isn't so much confusion and those decisions wont be so hard to make. Wouldn't that sooooo be the sh-t? Yea.. I thought so too, but then I couldn't figure out at what EXACT point in my 29 years of life that I would start over.  I'm sure that as youngins, we would've pushed that button quickly.  But as a grown woman knocking on 30, I look back and realize that some things that happened might have been some real life bullsh-t, but they were necessary for me to become the person I am.  However, there are some things that shouldn't have happened, didn't need to happen and I would SIT on that damn reset button to ensure that they didn't happen LOL!!! Okay, enough of my wishful thinking.  I just wanted to post my thoughts on this "reset button" here for you guys cuz I've LITERALLY been talking to my friends about it for almost 2 weeks now LOL.  The reactions of everyone I mentioned it to were the same, PURE EXCITEMENT.  It's like they got hype just thinking about all the things they would like to change.  So, I'd like to hear what you guys think about this dream button.  Ready, Reset, GO!!!

Meeting Adjourned! 

SD: Please send in your MATRT topics and/or write ups ASAP.  I'll post them just as you send them so you dont have to worry about me changing up your wording. If you dont want me to mention who it came from just let me know in the email. Email topics/write ups to dawn@divadishtalk.com and put MATRT in the subject line.  Hope to hear from you soon!!

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